Find Your People (and Maybe Have an IRL Drunken Write-In With Them)

I’ve said it before and I will say it again: one of the best things to come from sharing my writing online is the community I’ve become part of in the process.

The writing community is vast, diverse, and incredibly active. It didn’t happen right away but over the last year I’ve managed to forge some of the most incredible and truly genuine friendships with other writers and artists online. And all it took was a bit of honest sharing of my truest passions and the magic of the internet. WHO KNEW!

Somehow in this, the year 2017, many people are still critical of online friendships (which I guess must fall into a different category than casual hook-ups because Tindr is a thing BUT WHATEVER).

But I can tell you with great certainty that those people are missing out (not the Tindr people – the judgy ones). I have a wonderful crew of brilliant people that I am lucky enough to call my friends and can tap into on Twitter virtually at any time. We support one another, we keep each other company, and sometimes we even share a drink or two/seven. Usually on Saturday evenings when we gather around our #DrunkenWriteIn hashtag and drink (or not) and work on our projects (or not) in the virtual company of people who get it and make us happy.

Why you’d want to knock something that wonderful is truly beyond me.

Because my Twitter fam is scattered all around geographically, our virtual write-ins and daily tweets have had to stand in for IRL hangouts.


Earlier this week I made a four-hour road trip down to the States and met up with a couple of my beloved Twitter fam members – Brianna aka @DamhsaKorra and Rey aka @reylikescats – and, in a word, it was perfect.


Here’s the thing: once you’re grown and done with school it can be incredibly difficult to find “your people”. Making friends with people who share many of your interests is a lot easier said than done (especially when you’re socially awkward and your interests include things like writing and reading queer fiction, laughing dog memes, and getting emotional over cartoons).  I love that the internet makes it easier to connect to find like-minded people but there is something truly special about getting to actually meet these people face-to-face.

From the moment Bri, Rey, and I hugged hello it felt like we had been friends for years. I hadn’t realized just how badly I wanted to talk to other people about writing and share the experiences of this generally solitary process with other people who just get it. We had a blast and I can’t wait for our next chance to meet up again.

On my drive back to Canada after my whirlwind trip I spent a lot of time reflecting about how fortunate I am to have found these people and our entire online writing family. These friendships and the love they provide mean everything to me.

So, go. Get out there and find your people. Share what you love and surround yourself with people who get it. You’ll be so glad you did, trust me.

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